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Jun 17
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Why You Think Its Your Fault in the Rela...

bethathealinggirl
About this episode

Still Needing Constant Reassurance in Your Relationship? Here’s Why 👀 . This episode is for the anxious girlies who look like they have it all together … but on the inside, you’re checking the vibes like it’s your full-time job.

We’re talking:

✨ Why your brain craves constant reassurance—and how to stop needing it

✨ The connection between high achievement & emotional hypervigilance

✨ How to build real self-trust (the kind that doesn’t care if he texts back in 5 min or 5 hours)

PLUS: I’m sharing a few of the funniest icks from my DMs (and you will scream at one of them)

😂 If you're secretly struggling in a relationship that "should" feel safe, you're not crazy and you're definitely not alone. This episode will help you shift from spiraling to self-secure.

💌 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG This month inside the Girl Gang, we’re doing a full detox of overthinking + learning exactly how to soothe yourself without needing 24/7 validation from your partner. Want in? DM me “GIRLGANG” on IG or click the link below.

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