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Jun 6
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STOP Doing These 3 Things If You Want Hi...

Adam Lane Smith & Andrey Korikov
About this episode

In this conversation, Adam welcomes Margarita Nazarenko, a viral voice of tough love on relationships, for a deep, honest dialogue about anxious attachment, emotional patterns, and why so many women end up chasing emotionally unavailable men. Margarita offers clarity, accountability, and practical wisdom to break the cycle of toxic relationships and build something truly healthy.

Topics Covered: 👉 Why women with anxious attachment chase emotionally unavailable men 👉 The damage of mothering men and the false thrill of romantic pursuit 👉 How childhood wounds and abandonment issues shape relationship patterns 👉 The long term impact of emotionally absent fathers on children 👉 How to stop repeating generational pain through conscious healing 👉 Why secure, available men are often overlooked by anxious women 👉 A practical inner child healing practice to rewire your attachment style 👉 The difference between genuine connection and trauma bonds 👉 How to protect your energy, value, and future as a woman 👉 Why waiting to be chosen doesn’t make you weak, it makes you wise

You deserve to be chosen, cherished, and safe, not constantly chasing love that won’t stay. If this episode resonated, don’t forget to subscribe and share it with someone who needs to hear this truth. More raw and transformative conversations coming soon.

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc 

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com 

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Website: https://www.margaritanazarenko.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/margarita.nazarenko?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ== Youtube: https://youtube.com/@Margarita.Nazarenko?si=4FjXe2NpgP0fer21 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@margarita.nazarenko?_t=ZS-8vAmQU2w0b2&_r=1

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