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Jun 2025
20m 56s

Brutally Honest Advice for People-Please...

Pearlieee
About this episode

If you’ve ever found yourself constantly over-explaining, over-apologizing, or putting others’ comfort above your truth—you’re not alone. People-pleasing isn’t just a bad habit. It’s a trauma response. In this video, I break down the deep emotional roots of people-pleasing, how it connects to your attachment style, and how to finally break free. This isn’t surface-level advice. It’s the real, raw truth about what it takes to stop performing and start living as your full self.

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