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May 2025
24m 31s

Why You Feel Drained All the Time (Spoil...

TRINITY TONDELEIR
About this episode

Girls be like I needed this and its just boundaries and their bed... Wellness isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being real and that starts with stopping the cycle of people pleasing.

This one’s for my recovering “nice girls,” my people pleasers, and anyone who’s tired of saying “yes” when they really mean “no.”

In today’s episode, we’re unpacking:

  • What people pleasing actually looks like (it’s sneakier than you think)

  • Why so many of us learned to put others first at the cost of our own peace

  • How to gently but powerfully break the habit

  • A big sister pep talk to help you reclaim your voice, your time, and your energy

If you’ve been feeling drained, resentful, or like you don’t even know what you want anymore… this episode is your reset. You’re allowed to have needs. You’re allowed to disappoint people. You’re allowed to take up space.

Let this be your permission slip to stop performing and start showing up as your full self, messy, honest, worthy.

? Tune in and take your power back.


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