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May 2025
36m 41s

Hot girls are anxiously attached

Unbothered
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Ever convinced yourself someone hated you because they didn’t text back right away? Same. We’re continuing our attachment series with a deep dive into anxious attachment style, the one that overthinks, spirals, and still romanticizes the bare minimum. Therapist Aliza Shapiro joins us to unpack where that panic actually comes from, the protest behaviors we pass off as chill, and the difference between love and attachment (yes, there is one). We also get into the attachment style you have with yourself, and it blew our minds.


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