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May 2025
1h 46m

Childhood Trauma: How Abandonment Shaped...

Adam Lane Smith & Andrey Korikov
About this episode

In this deep and vulnerable conversation, Kyle Cease opens up about his personal journey—from using comedy as a defense mechanism to confronting childhood trauma and stepping into authentic healing. He explores how false identities are formed through pain and how real transformation happens when we face the hidden parts of ourselves. With insights on attachment, inner work, spirituality, and the power of humor, this episode is both heart-opening and thought-provoking.

 Topics Covered: 👉 Using comedy as a survival tool in childhood 👉 How childhood trauma shapes false identities 👉 Secure vs. anxious attachment styles 👉 The role of inner work in personal growth 👉 Letting go of external validation and people-pleasing 👉 The connection between sadness, humor, and healing 👉 Struggles with parental relationships and unmet expectations 👉 Social media, dopamine addiction, and emotional avoidance 👉 The tension between self-help culture and authenticity 👉 Why receiving can be difficult—and how to change that 👉 Allowing God or the present moment to guide transformation

Kyle’s story is a powerful reminder that healing doesn’t come from chasing success—it comes from turning inward, being honest with ourselves, and allowing the present moment to lead the way. Whether you're just beginning your healing journey or deep in the work, this episode offers insight, permission, and hope.

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’  https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc 

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com 

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