Today we're talking about metamour relationships with Alex Alberto. Alex is a queer author, publisher, and filmmaker. Last year, Alex published their memoir, “Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home” through Quilted Press, a collective of independent authors they co-founded. This year, Alex is producing a short film called “Coming Out Polyamorous for ... Show More
Oct 7
550 - We Still Play Medieval Dating Games
Today we're joined by a special guest we've had on the show before, Professor Annalisa Castaldo, to explore 'The Art of Courtly Love,' a medieval manuscript written 900 years ago that resembles a strange combination of romance novel, pickup artist manual, and incel manifesto. Pro ... Show More
59m 13s
Sep 30
549 - What's Really Driving Your Love Life: The 8 Worldly Concerns
Today we're discussing the Eight Worldly Concerns, or four things we desperately chase and four we desperately avoid, that have driven human behavior for more than 2500 years. We'll go over the origin and history of these eight concerns, why they matter to relationships, and of c ... Show More
54m 55s
Sep 23
548 - Conversations to Have Before Moving in Together
Today we're dusting off an old episode about cohabiting with a partner. In it, we talk about why people move in together, questions to ask yourself about possibly moving in with a partner, and of course, conversations to have with your potential living partner. We also discuss so ... Show More
1h 7m
Aug 2024
706. This is How You Move Forward After Heartbreak
If you’re heartbroken right now, this episode is for you. This week, K+L discuss the psychological and physical impacts of ending a relationship. The girls are your personal guides through the process of feeling these intense emotions, creating healthy post-breakup routines, and ... Show More
37m 20s
Jul 1
#276 Listener Episode: Breaking the On and Off Cycle
In today’s listener episode, I’m talking with Dionne, a proud Gen Xer who shares her story of a six-and-a-half-year, very on-again, off-again relationship that was marked by several breakups—some lasting just a weekend, others stretching to six months. We discuss how easy and add ... Show More
49m 3s
Dec 2024
To Anyone Going Through a Breakup: How to Heal a Broken Heart & Move On
If you’re going through a breakup, or someone you love is, this episode is dedicated to you.Mel is sharing the #1 cure for your broken heart, and is here to help you navigate the incredibly difficult process of moving forward after a breakup.This is also a resource to share with ... Show More
1h 25m
Aug 2024
#231 Why Breakups are So Hard Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
In today's episode I interview Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby about breakup recovery. I learned SO much in this interview as we discussed why breakups are so hard, the different stages of a breakup, how to navigate obsessive thinking about your ex, what's going on in our brains as ... Show More
41m 17s
May 2025
#270 Reclaiming Yourself After Heartbreak: How to Take Back What Was Lost
Today I’m taking you solo through a topic that hits close to home—reclaiming the things that feel lost after a breakup. Whether it’s a favorite song, a restaurant, a hobby, or even an entire part of town, breakups often leave us avoiding things we used to love.In this episode, I’ ... Show More
22 m
May 2025
#268 From Shock to Sadness: How Breakup Pain Evolves Over Time
In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into what it’s really like to go through the initial shock after a breakup. I’ll share what those first days can feel like—whether you’re in disbelief, feeling numb, caught up in logistical details, or hoping your ex might come back. I’ll ... Show More
19m 59s
Jul 8
#277 Why Your Brain Feels Stuck with Britt Frank
In today’s expert episode I’m joined by Britt Frank—author, speaker, and licensed neuropsychotterapist—who has been on my wish list for ages. We dive deep into the connection between breaking free from an addiction to substances and breaking free from an ex, and Britt so beautifu ... Show More
41m 53s
Jan 2025
429: Coping with the Cruel World & Enduring Heartbreak
In this solo Q&A episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I answer two deeply personal and important listener questions. The first comes from a trans man struggling with the impact of anti-LGBTQ+ legislation, fear for his safety, and overwhelming feelings of hopelessness. We ta ... Show More
29m 27s