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Apr 15
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Are You A High Functioning Codependent? ...

Glennon Doyle and Audacy
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402. Are You A High Functioning Codependent? Find Out with Terri Cole.

Amanda, Glennon, and Abby are joined by licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert, Terri Cole, to talk about high-functioning codependency—a term Terri coined to describe those who appear highly capable but feel deeply exhausted, resentful, and overwhelmed in relationships. In this episode, we’ll explore how being overly invested in others' outcomes can take a toll on your peace and relationships, and how to begin your healing journey. Be sure to tune in next episode for a deep dive into codependent recovery and how to navigate the process.

-Why the more capable you are, the less codependency looks like codependency

-Terri’s personal story about how she finally got into recovery for codependency

-The two questions you should ask yourself as a codependent before you say yes to anything

-The three quick practices you must do to protect your energy


On Terri: Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert and the author of Boundary Boss and Too Much! She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients –including parents, celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs – achieve sustainable change.  You can find her through her blog, courses, her podcast, The Terri Cole Show, and at terricole.com. Check out www.terricole.com/hfc for a special offering from Terri just for the podsquad!

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