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Oct 2024
1h 32m

Breaking Down High-Functioning Codepende...

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About this episode

If you've ever felt like you're doing too much for everyone else (or even just one person) at the expense of yourself, this episode will speak to your soul. We're talking about high-functioning codependency with psychotherapist and author Terri Cole. She explains high-functioning codependency, how it differs from traditional codependency, and how to know if you're this type of person and/or in this type of relationship with a partner, friend, or family member. We discuss breaking these cycles, what to do instead of "auto advice giving," co-parenting, the sneaky codependency of female friendships, why codependents attract narcissists, how to handle "boundary destroyers," and more. Before Terri joins us, we're talking about our new favorite sex toy, an iconic email Rayna's sister-in-law sent to the family, and Ashley's strong feelings about breakfast hours. Enjoy!

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