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Apr 2025
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133: How to Respond Instead of React in ...

The Sabrina Zohar Show
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Ever feel like one tiny argument spirals into a full-blown meltdown—and you don’t even remember what started it? In this raw and transformative solo episode, Sabrina Zohar dives deep into the psychology and neuroscience of reactivity, conflict, and emotional regulation. Using personal stories, real client insights, and powerful research-backed tools, she breaks down how childhood programming wires us for knee-jerk reactions—and how to break the cycle. Whether you're anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, you'll walk away with practical ways to pause, process, and respond without losing yourself in the heat of the moment.

This episode is packed with actionable frameworks like the 90-Second Rule, STOP Method, and Nonviolent Communication, plus insights from experts like Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, the Gottmans, and Dr. Susan David. If you’re ready to stop reenacting old trauma in your adult relationships and start showing up with more clarity, empathy, and self-trust, this one’s for you. Perfect for anyone navigating conflict with a partner, family, or even your own inner critic.

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