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Jan 2023
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8. For You: The Complete Guide to Your B...

Not For Everyone
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In this new deep dive series we're calling "For You", Caroline and Jess tackle the big daddy of all topics: breakups. 'Tis the season and it's not lost on us! So here's everything we could possibly fit into a reasonable length episode, including: 

  • How to know when to leave a relationship
  • Our approaches to healing from a breakup
  • Whether "no contact" is the only option
  • Situationships and why they're sometimes harder to get over

We yell, we pontificate, we read from old journals and quote Ariana Grande and actually give a lot of real tips in terms of what to do to get through this. But if all else fails, you can always DM lover/ENFJ/BDE Jess. Caroline will be too busy getting herself off on psychedelics.

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This episode was edited by none other than our prince, Abi Newhouse.

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Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA

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DISCLAIMER: All opinions are our own. We are not therapists or health professionals, or professional of any kind, really. Please see your own professional or counselor for professional support. Do your research and be safe!

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