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What happens when the only person who can help… is you, but you're already drowning? In this special crossover episode, I’m sharing my recent appearance on the incredible True Home Confessions podcast. A listener calls in with a heart-wrenching dilemma: her mom is aging, refusing help, and hinting at moving in. The problem? She’s not financially or emotionally ready—and she’s stuck in that “good daughter” guilt loop.


You’ll hear my advice on what to actually consider before combining finances or buying a home with a parent, and how to set healthy boundaries when emotions and obligations are all tangled up.


If you’ve ever felt like you're carrying the weight of your family’s expectations—especially when it comes to money—this episode will hit home.


In this episode:


  • The emotional cost of being the “responsible one”
  • Financial red flags when a parent wants to move in
  • How to create boundaries before resentment takes over
  • Why saying “no” can be the most loving thing you do


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