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Jul 31
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cutting the cord, keeping the thread: ho...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

Family dynamics shape us long after we’ve left home, but not always in ways we can see. 


This episode examines what happens when we internalize the unresolved patterns of our caregivers and carry them into adulthood as unconscious coping mechanisms. Through a personal story about a mother’s metaphor for surviving paternal rage, we look closely at how well-meaning messages can become long-term psychic scripts that teaching us self-abandonment. 


Rather than demonizing our parents or recommending “no contact” as the only solution, this conversation takes a symbolic and esoteric approach to breaking generational patterns. Drawing from Jungian analysis, initiatory frameworks, and contemplative Christianity, we’ll explore what it means to undergo a symbolic death of the child-self and rise into the archetype of the truth-seer: a person who can discern subtle danger, resist inherited scripts, and respond to life with conscious integrity.


This is a path for those who feel stuck between blaming their parents and becoming them and who want to transform family pain without burning everything down.


WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:


  • How internalized “inner parents” shape your adult relationships and self-concept
  • Why estrangement or “no contact” alone doesn’t resolve inherited trauma
  • What it means to collude with violation, and how to interrupt the pattern
  • How the archetype of the “truth-seer” can guide you into emotional maturity
  • Why symbolic separation (and not just physical distance) is key to growth
  • How resurrection myths (especially the Christ story) offer a map for individuation


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