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Jul 2024
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Dealbreakers, Alcoholism, Inheritance Mo...

ALLISON WETIG AND CEARA KIRKPATRICK
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Ep 184: It’s the last Friday of the month, so you know what that means - a new WWYBD (what would your bestie do) episode, where we answer listener-submitted questions. Listeners can submit questions any time via our website, and then we pull questions to fit a specific theme.

Ceara and Allison address various questions, including whether to splurge or save on a wedding, feeling guilty about inherited privilege, uncertainty about a dream job and dealing with a partner's drinking problem. They provide advice and insights on each topic, emphasizing the importance of personal values, open communication, and self-reflection. The conversation covers a range of emotions and challenges, offering support and guidance to listeners.

In the catch up segment, Allison shares she’s still deciding where to move and is manifesting the perfect space. The girls have a sidebar chat about how quickly clutter accumulates, the challenges of letting go of sentimental items and thrift manifestation. Ceara talks about unpacking wedding gifts and dealing with a flooded basement. 


QUESTIONS ASKED:

  • I’m getting married soon and I can’t decide between if I want to splurge or save on a wedding
  • I accepted my dream job as a nurse… and I think I’m getting hazed. 
  • My parents are pretty wealthy and I have some inheritance money from my grandparents. I just feel so guilty that I have such a financially secure future when other people can't even afford to put food on the table.
  • My boyfriend has a drinking problem and I don’t know how to move forward. Am I being too naggy? He is an absolute dream aside from this, everything I've wanted in a man and the one I want to marry, so it feels hard to just walk away and give up.


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