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May 27
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299. The psychology of emotionally immat...

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What happens when the people who were supposed to guide and nurture us were never taught to emotionally grow up themselves? In today’s episode, we dive into the psychology of emotionally immature parents - their behaviours, their blind spots, and the lasting impact they can have on our sense of self and emotional well-being.

We discuss:

  • How to spot emotional immaturity in parents
  • Where it can come from, and links to attachment theory
  • The impact on your identity, boundaries, and adult relationships
  • Why detaching with kindness can help
  • The guilt, grief, and tension that often comes with this dynamic
  • How to begin healing and reparenting yourself

If you’ve ever felt like the parent in your own family, or found yourself stuck in a cycle of seeking validation from someone who just can’t give it - this episode is for you. 

 

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