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Mar 2025
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131: Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally...

The Sabrina Zohar Show
About this episode
What if the emotionally unavailable people you keep dating are actually holding up a mirror to you? In this raw and unfiltered episode, Sabrina peels back the layers on emotional availability—what it really means, why you keep attracting partners who can’t meet you there, and how your own patterns might be keeping you stuck in the cycle. With personal stories, bold insights, and a no-BS look at emotional intelligence, she dives deep into the difference between true vulnerability and emotional oversharing, and why safety in connection starts with you.

Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidant, or just tired of dating people who can’t show up, this episode will hit home. Sabrina breaks down the signs of real emotional availability, how to check in with your nervous system, and practical tools to stop performing and start connecting. If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep ending up here?” — this one’s for you.

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