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Mar 2025
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S1 EP6 | Loving Difficult People | The L...

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Welcome to Season 1, Episode 6 of The Messy Podcast!

Tagline: Loving Difficult People – How to Care Without Losing Yourself

In this episode, we explore the fine line between compassion and self-betrayal, understanding the neuroscience of empathy fatigue and resentment, and providing scripts to enforce boundaries without guilt.

Key Takeaways:

  • Understand the balance between compassion and maintaining self-respect.
  • Learn about empathy fatigue and why helping others can feel addictive.
  • Discover actionable scripts to set boundaries without guilt.

Practice:

  • Actionable Challenge: Identify one draining person this week and practice: "Let Them ______. Let Me ______."

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