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Jan 2025
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S3 EP7 | How to Provide Support the Righ...

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About this episode

Welcome to Season 3, Episode 7 of The Messy Podcast!

In this episode, we explore The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins and how to provide the right kind of support to those you care about. This theory emphasizes the importance of offering support with conditions rather than rescuing people from their problems. Enabling others can hinder their healing and prolong their suffering, but when we allow adults to face the consequences of their actions, we help foster their independence. Learn practical ways to create an environment that promotes healing and change while respecting boundaries.

If you're ready to learn how to support others without taking over, grab your copy of The Let Them Theory today: https://amzn.to/3PTCK6h. For more exclusive episodes and to support The Messy Podcast, visit us at https://themessypodcast.com.

Key Takeaways from This Episode:

  • Support with Conditions: Understand why rescuing others from their problems is harmful, and how offering support with boundaries encourages independence.
  • The Importance of Boundaries: Learn how setting boundaries helps both you and your loved ones maintain healthy relationships while allowing them to grow and heal.
  • Believing in Their Abilities to Heal: Discover the power of believing in your loved ones’ capabilities to work through their challenges and heal on their own terms.
  • Fostering Independence: Explore how allowing others to face the consequences of their actions can support their personal growth and healing process.

The Let Them Theory

The Let Them Theory encourages you to stop taking control of others’ problems and instead focus on empowering them to heal. By offering support without enabling, you can create an environment that promotes real change, helping others face their challenges and grow stronger. This theory helps foster independence, making it easier for those you care about to learn and heal on their own.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • How to provide the right kind of support by allowing others to face the consequences of their actions.
  • The importance of setting clear boundaries to promote independence and healing.
  • Practical ways to support without enabling, fostering an environment where change can happen.
  • How to trust and believe in your loved ones’ abilities to heal on their own.

Ready to Support the Right Way?

Start today by grabbing your copy of The Let Them Theory and discover how to create healthier, more empowering relationships: https://amzn.to/3PTCK6h.

For more transformative content and to support The Messy Podcast, become a member at https://themessypodcast.com. We cover top books, Netflix series, and inspiring biographies in our other episodes you won’t want to miss!


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