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Hyper-independence might look like strength, resilience, and self-sufficiency but beneath it often lives exhaustion, loneliness, and the belief that no one else can truly be trusted to show up.In this episode I dive into the truth about hyper-independence: what it really is (a tr ... Show More

Breakups are never easy but if you struggle with anxious attachment, letting go can feel impossible. The end of a relationship doesn’t just bring sadness - it can trigger panic, obsessive thoughts, deep fear of abandonment, and an overwhelming sense of loss.In this episode, I exp ... Show More

In this episode, we explore what emotional intimacy really is, why it matters, and how to build more of it with practical tools. 🎧 Listen to the episode on developing emotional availability HERE.📖 Check out James 'Fish' Gill's book "How to Fall in Love with Humanity" HERE.✨ Wan ... Show More

We often talk about the emotional distance of avoidant attachers—but what if that “selfishness” is actually a protective coping mechanism?In this episode, I unpack how avoidant attachment can stem from emotional neglect and how hyper-independence becomes a substitute for unmet em ... Show More

What you'll learn… * Defining relationship self-sabotage. * How each attachment style (including secure attachments) may sabotage dating and relationships. * Why they behave in these unhealthy ways. * How to stop pushing those you love away. ——— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jess ... Show More

What if some of your anxious attachment behaviors are actually rooted in…selfishness? Not because you don’t care—but because fear can make everything feel urgent and all about you.In this episode, I share my own hard truths, the rigid expectations I used to set, and how healing s ... Show More

In today’s episode, I’m diving into a topic that’s both close to my heart and foundational to how I approach this work: the widespread demonisation of avoidant attachment — and why we need to stop doing it.It’s all too common, especially in online spaces, for people (often those ... Show More

In this episode, we’re diving into how fearful avoidant attachment (also known as disorganised attachment) plays out in relationships. If you identify with this attachment style, you might notice certain patterns in your relationships that feel confusing or contradictory. Key poi ... Show More

When you have an anxious attachment style, it can be hard to know what you actually need to feel secure — especially if past relationships have left you second-guessing yourself or trying to manage your anxiety by suppressing your needs.In this episode, we’re exploring five key i ... Show More

In today's episode, we explore how perfectionism intersects with anxious attachment and impacts our ability to form secure relationships. We examine how the drive for perfection often stems from attachment wounds around unworthiness and creates barriers to authentic connecti ... Show More

Welcome back to another episode in our attachment theory series. In Part 3, we'll discuss secure attachment styles. Who are these elusive 'secure' individuals, and do they truly exist? What traits do they possess? How can you become more secure in your own relationships? While we ... Show More

Today on the podcast, we have Patch McCormick, a former ad man turned relationship therapist for men, couples, and groups. Individually, he helps men earn secure attachment with a combination of IFS, EMDR, CBT, and various somatic tools. He's incredibly passionate about teaching ... Show More