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Jul 31
44m 3s

Thriving at Work Struggling in Love With...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
About this episode

Why is it that ambitious, successful women can thrive in their careers but feel lost in love?
In this episode, Attachment Therapist and Coach Carly Ann joins me to explore the emotional disconnect that many high-achieving women experience in relationships.

We dive into:

  • How codependency is hardwired into our understanding of love

  • The difference between caring for a partner vs. trying to fix or save them

  • Why the skills that make you successful at work can backfire in romance

  • How scarcity thinking keeps you stuck in unsatisfying dynamics

  • Shifting from anxiety to emotional responsibility in relationships

  • Understanding overreactions, jealousy, and shame through the lens of attachment science

If you’ve ever wondered why you feel powerful in every area except your love life, this conversation is for you.

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