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Mar 2025
56m 25s

ROMANTICIZING PAIN: Are You Addicted to ...

Zainab Al Yakoob and Mia Al Abdulrazzak
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This week, we’re unpacking the art (and struggle) of letting go — because if “just move on” was that easy, we wouldn’t still be spiraling at 3AM. From people who romanticize their struggles to the ones who let pain turn them bitter, we’re unpacking why some of us just can’t seem to move on. And of course, we’re asking: what does it actually mean to let go — and how do you do it when being hurt has become part of who you are? All this and more in this week’s episode!

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