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Feb 2025
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Validation: The Skill That Changes Every...

DEAR MEDIA, ALIZA PRESSMAN
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In this episode we sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Caroline Fleck to talk about the power of validation—what it really means, why it’s so important, and how we can use it to strengthen our relationships with our kids, others, and even ourselves. Dr. Caroline Fleck breaks down the science behind validation, shares practical tools from dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and clears up common misconceptions—like how to validate without reinforcing bad behavior. She also opens up about her own deeply personal experience with validation and repair in parenting.


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