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Feb 2025
45m 11s

What Is A Negative Couples Cycle?

Thrive Therapy - Colter Bloxom, Lauren Mokarry, and Cayla Bozovich
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A negative couples cycle is a recurring pattern of interaction in which partners react to each other’s protective moves, escalating conflict rather than addressing the underlying emotions. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren illustrate how miscommunication and emotional defenses—such as criticism, defensiveness, or withdrawal—reinforce each other in a self-perpetuatin ... Show More
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