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Jan 2024
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Episode 260: Why Couples Have The Same F...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode
In long-term relationships, partners often find that they’re having the same fights over and over again. The fights are often triggered by something seemingly small, but then they have this way of escalating and turning into bigger conflicts that are wildly unproductive. This relationship pattern is known as a negative cycle. In today’s show, we’re going to delve into why negative cycles happen, how we create these patterns, and how you can start to recognize them. In the next episode, we’ll talk about how to break negative cycles. My guest is Julie Menanno, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling Clinic, and Secure Relationship Coaching. Her latest book is titled Secure Love. Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:
  • What is it that triggers negative cycles in relationships?
  • What do negative cycles look like or feel like as they're happening?
  • Which attachment style pairings are most likely to lead to negative cycles?
  • How can you tell the difference between negative cycles and abuse?
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