In long-term relationships, partners often find that they’re having the same fights over and over again. The fights are often triggered by something seemingly small, but then they have this way of escalating and turning into bigger conflicts that are wildly unproductive. This relationship pattern is known as a negative cycle. In today’s show, we’re going to ... Show More
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Episode 543: How Aftercare Makes Sex Better
What happens after an intense sexual experience can be just as important as what happens during it. In the kink world, this is where “aftercare” comes in. But aftercare is about much more than cuddling, and it isn’t just for submissive partners. In this episode, we’ll explore wha ... Show More
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Episode 542: How To Talk Sexy Without Feeling Awkward
Talking during sex can be incredibly hot. But for a lot of people, it can also feel awkward, intimidating, or embarrassing. The good news is that sexy talk is a skill you can learn, and it’s about much more than just working up the nerve to say explicit words. In fact, what you s ... Show More
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Episode 541: How to Calm Attachment Anxiety
For some people, relationships can bring a lot of anxiety and uncertainty. They might question whether their partner really loves them, become highly sensitive to signs of rejection or distance, or constantly seek reassurance. But where does this anxiety come from, and what can w ... Show More
31m 20s
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What Is A Negative Couples Cycle?
A negative couples cycle is a recurring pattern of interaction in which partners react to each other’s protective moves, escalating conflict rather than addressing the underlying emotions. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren illustrate how miscommunication and emotional defenses—such as cr ... Show More
45m 11s
Jul 2025
Dr. Orna Gurlanik: Struggling to Communicate With Your Partner? THIS One Habit Could Slowly Be Destroying Your Relationship! (Here’s How to Catch It Before It’s Too Late!)
Do you ever feel like you're having the same fight over and over again? Why is it so hard to be in a relationship with someone who is different from you? Today, Jay sits down with Dr. Orna Guralnik — the world-renowned clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst, and lead therapist on t ... Show More
1h 45m
<p>If you are struggling with conflict in your relationship Figs provide insight into how couples get into fights, and how come it’s hard to get out of the conflict.</p>
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<p>Topics covered in the podcast:</p>
<p>- Couples conflict</p>
<p>- Changing from a me vs. you to ... Show More
