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Feb 2022
5m 9s

Why Does My Partner Hate Me?

THE GOTTMAN INSTITUTE
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Does your partner react with negativity whenever you try to have a normal conversation? If so, they may be stuck in “negative sentiment override.” On this episode of Small Things Often, find out what may have caused it — and steps to take in order to break the pattern.  
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