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Feb 2025
1h 17m

Why Making Friends as an Adult Feels Imp...

Mel Robbins
About this episode

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering “where did all my friends go?” or felt like making friends as an adult is impossible, you are not alone. 

In today’s episode, Mel is breaking down the surprising reasons why friendship feels so much harder in adulthood—and, more importantly, how to change that. 

In this episode, you’ll learn: 

  • The three essential pillars for creating deep, lasting friendships. 
  • Why you may be experiencing a “friendship recession” 
  • How to stop taking friendship shifts personally. 
  • How to use The Let Them Theory to take a more flexible approach to friendship. 
  • A simple, step-by-step plan to find and keep incredible friends at any stage of life. 

Mel also shares shocking research that will change the way you think about friendships—including how long it really takes to form a close bond and the single most important factor in building lasting connections.

If you feel lonely, disconnected, or simply want to strengthen the friendships you already have, this episode will give you the exact roadmap you need.

For more resources, click here for the podcast episode page. 

If you liked this episode, your next listen should be this one: What Makes a Good Life? Lessons From the Longest Study on Happiness

Get a copy of Mel’s new book, The Let Them Theory here

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