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May 2024
56m 22s

3 Steps For Building Friendships As An A...

THE ART OF CHARM
About this episode

In today’s episode, we tackle making friends as an adult with AJ, Johnny, and coach Michael Herold. 


Delve into the complexities of making and maintaining friendships as an adult. Why do many adults struggle with loneliness and how can propinquity—or the strategic use of proximity—open doors to new and lasting connections? Whether you're a seasoned professional or a social novice, this episode offers actionable strategies to enhance your social life and deepen your relationships. Tune in to discover how you can turn social opportunities into a thriving network of genuine connections, and learn why mastering the Art of Charm is more essential today than ever before.


What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • How can understanding propinquity transform your approach to forming social connections?
  • What alarming trends about loneliness were revealed in recent global surveys?


  • How do you start building new relationships and make new friends? – 11:24
  • How does remote work affect team cohesion and personal relationships at work?
  • What scientific principles can help in forming deep and lasting friendships?


  • Many underestimate the value of this when it comes to making friends – 24:38
  • How can re-engaging with old hobbies or exploring new passions rejuvenate your social life?
  • What practical steps can you take to weave social opportunities into your everyday activities?


  • What are you doing to push new people away from being your friend? – 34:06
  • How can recognizing and reducing friction in social interactions facilitate the formation of friendships?
  • What practical steps can you take to lessen the burden on potential friends and make it easier for them to engage with you?


  • How do develop a plan for a vibrant social life – 28:32
  • What are the benefits of having a structured plan for social interactions?
  • How does consistency in social activities lead to stronger and more meaningful relationships?
  • What practical steps can you take to lessen the burden on potential friends and make it easier for them to engage with you?


  • Introducing the Social Sales Funnel Concept – 44:55
  • What is the Social Sales Funnel, and how can it help you build a thriving social network?
  • How can hosting a monthly event streamline the process of turning acquaintances into friends?
  • What strategies can ensure the success of such gatherings, encouraging new connections to flourish?


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