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Mar 2025
32m 30s

why is it so hard to make friends?

cara and leo
About this episode

in this solo episode, i share some honest thoughts on my struggles recently to make meaningful friendships and I unpack the psychology behind our craving for a built-in social circle, why adulthood makes friendships feel so much harder, and what we can actually do to cultivate real connection!


I also give you a little life update (spoiler: the parents meeting each other wasn’t the disaster my overthinking brain imagined) and share my thoughts on Binding 13 and Keeping 13!


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