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Feb 2025
45m 27s

Solo Episode: Date yourself first and ot...

Anna Kai
About this episode
In this week's solo episode, I dive into the fundamental difference between wanting a man rather than feeling like you need one. From my early misconceptions about needing a man to teach me how to handle personal finances to being forced to learn how to handle my own sh*t, I outline the ways in which confidence is an active practice and not something you nee ... Show More
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