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Feb 2025
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Solo Episode: Date yourself first and ot...

Anna Kai
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In this week's solo episode, I dive into the fundamental difference between wanting a man rather than feeling like you need one. From my early misconceptions about needing a man to teach me how to handle personal finances to being forced to learn how to handle my own sh*t, I outline the ways in which confidence is an active practice and not something you need to be born with. I answer your voicemails on how to deal with getting over a man who lied to you about his identity and differentiating between intuition and anxiety.


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