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Sep 16
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What is the Disorganised Attachment Styl...

THE PSYCHOLOGY SISTERS
About this episode

Howdy friends! Welcome back for another deep dive.

We will be discussing the lesser known attachment style today, around 5% of people have a disorganised attachment. 

A disorganised attachment is an adaptation that stems from childhood trauma, it’s like having a compass that points north and south at the same time. Every step toward love feels like danger, and every step away feels like loss.

This attachment style begins in childhood, where love and fear are tangled together, when the caregiver we run to for safety is also the one we fear and at times even hurts us. As adults, this can leave us caught in a painful push–pull: craving closeness yet retreating when it arrives.

In this episode, we’re exploring disorganised attachment tracing its roots in early relationships, understanding how it shows up in our adult lives, and sharing practical insights to begin orientating back to security. Because even when our compass feels broken, there is a path back to safety, trust, and connection.

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