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Jan 2025
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#254 Overcoming Dating Games and Finding...

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On this episode of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast we have guests Julie Kraftchick and Yue Xu, hosts of the Dateable podcast and authors of the new book "How to Be Dateable." Rather than providing typical dating rules or gimmicks, they discuss how to approach dating authentically and in alignment with one's true self.


In this episode we talk about

– The modern dating pitfalls that keep people stuck in unfulfilling patterns

– Different dating archetypes (Maverick, Achiever, Thinker, Dreamer, Energizer) and how understanding your type can help you date better

– Moving away from "dating games" and inauthentic behaviors

– Finding your "dating North Star" and staying true to your core needs

– Rethinking compatibility beyond surface-level commonalities

– Handling rejection and building resilience in dating

– How to maintain your sense of self while dating

Find out why dating doesn't have to feel scary or depleting - it can be energizing when approached from an authentic place. Julie and Yue both share personal experiences and insights from their decade of podcasting about relationships.

Whether you’re actively dating or healing from a breakup and are nervous about dating again in the future this episode is for you. 

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