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Nov 2024
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Episode 680: Avoidants Do NOT Fall Out O...

LUCIA
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If your ex is an avoidant and they dumped you, you probably think they fell out of love.  But you'd be wrong.  Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares the real reason most avoidants pull away or break up with you.

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