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Sep 2024
1h 39m

Shawn Mendes: How to Let Go of Your Past...

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About this episode

What part of your past self do you feel most attached to?

What fears are holding you back from embracing who you are now?

On this extremely special episode of On Purpose, Jay sits down with global music sensation and dear friend, Shawn Mendes. Shawn  is a Grammy-nominated singer-songwriter known for his soulful voice and heartfelt lyrics. The two go in deep to Shawn’s newest album ‘Shawn.’ Shawn is an advocate for mental health awareness, openly sharing his personal struggles with anxiety and self-discovery. 

For the first time, Shawn opens up about his struggles with anxiety and the difficult decision to cancel his world tour to focus on his mental health, sharing the weight of that moment and the liberating journey of prioritizing his well-being. He reflects on the challenges of growing up in the spotlight, the pressures of maintaining perfection, and how therapy, friendships, and embracing vulnerability helped him find balance and peace.

Shawn and Jay explore themes of love, relationships, and the intricacies of navigating public life while protecting private emotions. With heartfelt honesty, Shawn shares how he’s learned to diversify his life beyond music and embrace all forms of love, not just romantic, but the love that comes from connection and support from those around him.

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to prioritize mental health

How to embrace vulnerability

How to let go of perfectionism

How to accept love and support

How to build emotional resilience

How to be honest in relationships

Remember, the hardest decisions often lead to the most meaningful transformations. Take care of yourself, lean on those around you, and trust that, with time, you will find your way to peace and authenticity.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

03:54 Clubhouse Studio’s Significance (Where the interview takes place!) 

05:51 The Struggle of Asking for Help When Making Hard Life Decisions 

07:48 Why Shawn Canceled His Tour

12:48 Tough Choices and Growth

15:10 Breakdowns Leading to Breakthroughs

17:09 Finding Shawns Own Authenticity in Music

21:08 The Power of Vulnerability and Expressing Emotional Truth 

23:50 Letting Go of Ego to Heal

26:52 Learning to Accept Yourself Through Therapy

28:42 The Hardest Internal Question to Face

30:47 The Power of Listening Without Judgment

32:51 Learning How to Face Pain Instead of Running From It

38:18 Finding Emotional Balance of Extreme Emotions

40:00 Shawn Opens up About Grief and Guilt Over a Lost Friend

51:10 Healing Through Art and Music

55:26 Questioning ‘Forever’ in Love

59:09 Maintaining Love Under Pressure

01:02:16 The Importance of Over-Communication in Relationships 

01:03:50 Why Partnership is More Than Just Love

01:07:27 How to Be Open to Love that is Not Just Romantic 

01:13:38 How to Avoid Focusing on the Highs

01:15:45 Trusting Your Inner Voice and Learn How to Listen to Your Intuition 

01:18:36 How to Surrender to Life Unfolding Naturally Without Forcing It 

01:21:59 Surprise Note from Shawn’s Sister 

01:33:09 Final Five with Shawn

Episode Resources:

Shawn Mendes | Website

Shawn Mendes | Instagram

Shawn Mendes | Facebook

Shawn Mendes | TikTok

Shawn Mendes | YouTube 

Shawn Mendes | LinkedIn

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