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Jul 2024
12m 12s

Why Avoidants Might Sometimes Prefer Lim...

KATERINA ELEFTHERIOU
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In this episode, I discuss how limerence can sometimes be a more comfortable (although not healthy or sustainable) alternative to a proper relationship for those who have avoidance in their attachment style. 
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