In this episode, John and Vanessa discuss the value of fighting in relationships and how to fight without actually fighting. They emphasize the importance of understanding before trying to be understood, shifting from a combative approach to a more empathetic one, being aware of one's own triggers / reactions during conflicts, and so much more.
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When Your Partner Can’t Meet Your Needs… Do You Stay or Go?
In this module of the video course, we explore what really happens inside relationships when two people are trying — and struggling — to grow.
We talk about emotional language, repair, anger, shutdown, nervous-system responses, and what it means to feel safe with someone for the ... Show More
27m 40s
Nov 24
Going Rogue: The Truth About Becoming Yourself
In this raw, unfiltered reflection, John shares the real story behind going rogue as a therapist — from coffee-shop sessions to walk-and-talks, to breaking every rule therapy school ever taught him.
He explores the lifelong pattern of exchanging truth for membership, the fear of ... Show More
22m 27s
May 2019
What Every Conflict Is Actually About
“Before I can change your mind, I need to understand where your mind is,” says pro negotiator Daniel Shapiro. The founder and director of the Harvard International Negotiation Program, Shapiro has advised all sorts of people and organizations through conflict: families, CEOS, hea ... Show More
1h 4m