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Jul 2024
21m 4s

How To Fight Without Fighting (Part 1)

The Angry Therapist
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In this episode, John and Vanessa discuss the value of fighting in relationships and how to fight without actually fighting. They emphasize the importance of understanding before trying to be understood, shifting from a combative approach to a more empathetic one, being aware of one's own triggers / reactions during conflicts, and so much more. Follow John ... Show More
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