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Nov 2023
55m 59s

Ep 46: How you fight affects how you fuc...

Meg and Jacob O'Neill
About this episode

A lot of people come to us wanting to know how to spice up their sxx life & bring the passion back into their long term relationship. And our advice is always VERY unsexy. 😉


We don’t suggest sxx toys, playing in BDSM or learning about polarity. (Although all these things can be powerful + fun!)


⚡️⚡️⚡️ For us, how a couple fights most affects how they fuck. ⚡️⚡️⚡️


So, when someone comes to either of us with the desire of re-igniting the fire in their intimacy…


We suggest learning how to ‘fight better’.

And in this week’s episode we dive deep into why how you fight affects how you fuck. 

We dive deep into… 

  • The power of honouring rage & anger in partnership 
  • Why sex toys & BDSM won’t help you sex life if you’re holding onto resentment 
  • The importance of keeping the channel between the hearts clear 
  • Why our society normalises contempt & resentment in relationships 
  • The power of curiosity in moments of tension 
  • Conflict holds INFORMATION on how to love your partner better. Are you looking for that information? 
  • And much, much more 



Come join us THIS Sunday 12th November 4pm AEST for FROM CONFLICT TO DEEPER CONNECTION:
https://bit.ly/3MuKEle




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