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Jun 2024
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#230 I Wanted a Grey Couch.... so how di...

Dr. Heidi
About this episode

How did I end up here?

Good question because when I was where you are, I was asking the exact same thing.

I knew the decision to be in that relationship was not a good one. I knew it from the very beginning. 

How did I know? I could feel it. I knew something felt off but I could not put my finger on it.

Listen to todays episode and follow the pattern described. Does this sound like you and your situation.

If you are looking to take the TPA that was mentioned in the episode you can do that here on my website.

https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

If you are looking for answers as to why you are finding yourself in something that is not comfortable for you or you are suspecting may even be toxic for you, do not feel ashamed to ask. I didn't ask and it took me a long time to get where I am today. However, I am here today to be the person that I needed when I was trying to understand how I got there; for you.

To see all my offered services to educate, to empower, to support you click here:

  • https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page
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