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Jun 2024
31m 15s

Are You an Asshole to Yourself?

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About this episode

I had a conversation with a friend recently where I mentioned all of the things I wanted to get done by the end of the day. 


I wanted to record a podcast, finish off an old project and start on a new one, edit the week's content, and take the girls to the park. Within two hours because that seemed reasonable.


When I say the silence was LOUD. My friend just stared at me before she said “You want to do two full days of work in two hours.”


I didn’t even realise, and yet I would have been angry with myself if I hadn’t gotten all that work done. 


Today’s episode is all about the expectations that we put on ourselves, and how to move past the negative self-talk. I’ve even created a checklist so that you can see where you sit on the a-hole scale.


This episode is for you if you:

Feel guilty for having “free time”

Never manage to complete your to-do list

Don’t allow yourself to make mistakes

Focus on what you didn’t achieve rather than everything you have accomplished

… and so much more


Check out my Reset Roadmap episode on goal setting to download the framework that will change your life.


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