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May 2024
1h 10m

Episode 411 - The Dr. Cloud Show - The U...

DR. HENRY CLOUD
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Dr. Cloud explores the idea that achieving anything of value in life requires doing things we don't want to do. He draws from personal experiences, such as pulling an all-nighter to meet a book deadline, and uses relatable examples like losing weight or building a successful marriage. Dr. Cloud emphasizes that embracing this mindset – that discomfort and effort are necessary for growth – is crucial. He touches on parenting styles that may inadvertently shield children from struggles, preventing them from developing grit. Overall, the talk encourages viewers to reframe their perspective on challenges, seeing them not as obstacles but as opportunities for personal development and ultimately creating a life of value.

 

In a written question, Dr. Cloud examines the "backfire effect" where people become more entrenched in beliefs when presented with conflicting evidence. He suggests first understanding why the issue matters to the other person - the stakes involved. Emotions also play a key role - hear their feelings before diving into differing perspectives. Dr. Cloud states differing viewpoints often stem from different perceived solutions to shared underlying goals. He advises separating the person from their position by acknowledging emotions and finding alignment on higher-level values first. He cautions that some topics incite too much emotion for productive dialogue. The desire for autonomy can trigger defensiveness when people feel controlled. He presents strategies like avoiding controlling language, finding common ground, and sometimes disengaging from unproductive debates. His analysis provides a framework for navigating the psychology behind these difficult conversations when beliefs clash.

 

Vanessa and her husband have gone no contact with his parents. She wants advice on how to support her husband through this situation.

 

Josh wants to pursue an advanced degree in addiction counseling. He feels like he’s being called from God to do it. How do you know when you’re getting a calling from God?

 

Dr. Henry Cloud wants to help you take back control of your time and energy. You'll learn powerful strategies to prioritize what matters, set healthy boundaries, and achieve your goals with less stress and more joy. Master Your Time, Master Your Life is a 2 hour workshop that will transform how you use your time. Go to https://www.boundaries.me/time to get a special offer on the upcoming workshop!

 

If you want to call in or watch the show live, subscribe on YouTube and click the Bell icon. It will alert you whenever we go live and will be your cue to call in and ask Dr. Cloud for advice.

https://youtube.com/drhenrycloud

 

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