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Apr 2024
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Monique Smith, The Oldest Living "Jane D...

Brown Girl Self-Care
About this episode

*trigger warning* This episode talks about exploitation and abuse of a Black child.

In today's episode of the Brown Girl Self-Care Podcast, I am speaking with Monique Smith, aka the worlds oldest living Jane Doe. We dive into:

  • The traumatic experiences she endured and how she became a "Jane Doe"
  • Laying claim to her identity unapologetically so that she could begin to heal and thrive
  • Breaking cycles with her children
  • How our babies are labeled as "runaways" more often than not and why that happens
  • Walking out her God-given assignment even as she was unsure if she had a passion for it
  • How she was able to explore softness and trust after trauma


Monique's book, I Am The Ancestor, can be purchased directly from her website. Click Here To Check It Out! For more details on booking this amazing woman for your next book club, inquire here.

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