Sarah is learning not to take ownership of someone else's feelings. She is still owning her part in triggering someone, but she is starting to allow others to be not ok without having to fix it. Sarah is no longer accepting her old default that there's something's wrong with her, or that she needs to fix every uncomfortable situation. Doug points out that she is embodying the Carl Rogers quote, "When I accept myself as I am, then I can change." Sarah has accepted herself as a trauma survivor and is "lit tur uh lee" reshaping her brain.