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Apr 2024
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Ep. 233 - My ex will be everything I wan...

Breakup Coach Dorothy
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Today we address the common anxiety of envisioning your ex-partner attaining perfection with someone new. We navigate through two scenarios, challenging you to confront the uncertainties of speculating about their ex's future. With empathy and wisdom, you'll learn to refocus on your own worth, reminding you that your ex's actions do not define your value. Tune in to reclaim agency over your narrative and have exact next steps for when you find yourself consumed with how your ex will treat their new partner. 

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