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Ep. 363 - Why did my ex switch up out of...

Breakup Coach Dorothy
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How could your ex be completely in love with you one minute and then suddenly act like they want nothing to do with you? If you've been replaying your breakup trying to figure out how they could change their mind so fast, you're not alone in wanting an explanation. But there's something your brain may be doing with that question that is keeping you stuck far longer than you need to be. In this episode, I'm breaking down what may actually be happening when someone seems to "switch up" out of nowhere, why the ending can feel completely different to the person leaving than the person being left, and what to do when you never get an explanation that makes you feel better. Because there is a way to move forward even when part of you is still sitting there thinking, "But HOW did they switch up out of nowhere!?"

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