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Jan 2024
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160. Are you ready to date again ft. The...

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Getting into a new relationship can bring up a lot of past trauma from previous relationships, and cause a lot of self sabotage or anxiety, resulting in behaviours such as: 

  • Emotional unavailability
  • Knit picking behaviour 
  • Starting unnecessary fights 
  • Stone walling 
  • Pushing people away 
  • Ignoring red flags 

In this episode we answer the question "do you need to completely heal before entering into a new relationship?". We are joined by the incredible, Tasha Bailey, otherwise known as the Real Talk Therapist as we break down the way past relationship trauma can show up in our new relationships and how to heal whilst still accepting the love you deserve. 

Follow Tasha here: @realtalk.therapist 

Buy Tasha's book here: https://www.amazon.com/Real-Talk-Lessons-Therapy-Self-Love-ebook/dp/B0BGXKR5T2 

Follow the podcast here: @thatpsychologypodcast 

Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg 

For business enquiries: psychologyofyour20s@gmail.com 

 

 

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