If you have insecurities that come up and cause you to push your partner away or cling too closely, this is for you. Maybe you find that you are acting out in petty ways – like, starting fights. Or maybe it comes out in jealousy. When you get insecure, you are taken out of the present joy of a relationship, something that can make you feel haunted or like yo ... Show More
Sep 25
Ep 285: Can vs. Should: The little engine that needs relief
Yes, you think you can, but should you? If you are a “doer” who tends to do lots for everyone else, there is likely a part of you that is stuck in that position. It’s one that feels bound by duty and the expectations of others, yet it’s conditioned and created by us. But it almos ... Show More
48m 34s
Sep 11
Ep 284: The Safe Container: Moving from Healed + Higher
The hardest thing to do is be guided by the highest self versus the weakest, triggered self. The weakest self wants a fix: wants to self-soothe in the face of a low feeling. When we can create a strong routine and a safe container, we can be guided by our highest, wisest self and ... Show More
45m 10s
Apr 2024
139. [Relationships Series Part 2] Why HSPs Find Themselves In Toxic Relationships
In this episode, part 2 of a 6 part relationship series, we dive into the "insecure self-doubter" relationship archetype, particularly focusing on how low self-worth and insecurity can lead to an unhealthy relationship. I also share my personal experience to illustrate exactly ho ... Show More
23m 6s
May 2023
63: Why reassurance seeking is not free (and what to do instead)
In this episode, I share the costs of reassurance seeking, the act of trying to find certainty about your relationship. If you tend to constantly be searching for the perfect piece of advice (even from me!), you're addicted to the illusion of certainty as a means of feeling safe. ... Show More
39m 4s
Aug 2021
28. How Confessing Your Thoughts to your Partner is Making your ROCD worse
<p class="">If you've ever found yourself confessing your intrusive thoughts to your partner in order to feel better, you're not alone! However, you might be doing more harm to yourself and to your relationship than good. In this episode, I offer a compassionate view on where the ... Show More
32m 35s