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Nov 2023
1h 34m

embracing your crazy while falling apart...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

In this insightful episode, I sit down with Taune Lyons, a licensed marriage and family therapist whose mission is to empower individuals to uncover the healing potential within themselves. Together, we dive deep into transformative practices for managing emotions, confronting our inner shadows, and understanding the unconscious patterns that shape our lives. Taune’s compassionate approach and wealth of knowledge make this conversation a must-listen for anyone ready to break free from self-defeating patterns and take conscious steps toward growth. Through our discussion, you’ll gain practical tools to help you pause and reflect before reacting to triggers, as well as learn how attachment styles and shadow work influence emotional regulation. We also tackle how to set healthy boundaries, not just with those around us, but within the therapeutic relationship itself.


Topics Covered in This Episode:


  • Building Emotional Awareness: Learning the power of the “pause” before reacting, and how this simple practice can fundamentally shift your life.
  • Breaking Free from Self-Sabotage: Insights into overcoming self-defeating behaviors, even when you’re aware of your patterns but feel stuck.
  • Self-Fulfilling Prophecies and Belief Patterns: Unpacking how deeply ingrained beliefs like “I’ll never succeed in this field” or “I’m always abandoned” can limit your potential.
  • Healthy Anger as Initiation: Embracing anger as a valuable, initiatory experience rather than a destructive force.
  • Attachment Theory Explained: A look at attachment styles and why understanding them is key to emotional regulation and deeper connection.
  • Exploring the Shadow Self: Discover how shadow work can reveal unconscious triggers and empower more authentic self-expression.
  • Therapy Boundaries: Navigating transference, countertransference, and how to establish boundaries in the therapeutic relationship.
  • Uncovering Unconscious Influences: Recognizing how identification with unconscious thoughts and the collective unconscious can drive our decisions if left unchecked.
  • Identifying Dysfunctional Systems: How family, societal, religious, and workplace dynamics can subtly shape our behaviors and beliefs.
  • Projection Awareness: How to recognize when you’re projecting onto others or when someone else is projecting onto you.


Connect with Taune:


Resources:

Healing Rage: Women Making Inner Peace Possible by Ruth King

Trauma and the Supernatural in Psychotherapy by Alex Monk


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