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Dec 2023
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Why Do I Love the Way That I Love: The 4...

Mel Robbins
About this episode

Why do you love the way that you love?

 

How do you have the best relationships of your life (including the one with yourself)?

Today, Mel sits down with expert in attachment theory Thais Gibson to explain the framework to improve any relationship in your life.

Her work on the subconscious mind and personal transformation will empower you to set better goals and have happier and healthier relationships.

 

Topics discussed include:

  • How to have secure and healthy relationships (including your relationship with yourself)
  • What your “attachment style” means and the 4 types
  • How your subconscious mind drives a lot of what you do
  • What love is supposed to look like
  • How your attachment style impacts your personal goal-setting
  • The biggest limiting beliefs from childhood (which one is yours?)
  • How to figure out your attachment style
  • How to make your attachment style “secure”
  • The difference between “core wounds” and “core needs”
  • The 2 things you did in childhood that made you a people-pleaser
  • How to feel less anxious and overwhelmed in relationships
  • How your fear of abandonment shows up in your relationships
  • The one question to ask yourself before you argue with your partner
  • What your new love interest needs if they have a hard time trusting
  • How to reprogram your subconscious mind for healthier relationships


You can purchase Thais’s latest book, Learning Love: Build the Best Relationships of Your Life Using Integrated Attachment Theory, here: https://a.co/d/i2Ae9vG

 

Follow Thais Gibson:

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YouTube: youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool

 

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Check out my book, The High 5 Habit: https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt

 

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