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Sep 2024
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#158: How to Stop Obsessing About Someon...

Stephanie Rigg
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In this episode, we’re tackling the challenging topic of obsessive thinking about someone and how to break free from that mental loop that causes suffering.

We’ll explore different approaches, including Byron Katie’s The Work as a top-down method for challenging your thoughts, somatic tools to discharge anxiety from the body as a bottom-up approach, as well as the broader work of addressing the insecurities and wounds that often fuel obsessive thinking.

By addressing your thoughts, calming your body, and working through your deeper emotional wounds, you can find peace and clarity in your relationships.

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