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Dec 2023
48m 24s

111. how to stop obsessing over romantic...

Elicia Goguen
About this episode
Hi my loves 💗 Welcome back to another off topic episode where we chat ⬇️

-limerence: an unhealthy obsession over a romantic partner
-anxious attachment style vs secure
-how to STOP the obsession over the person you're dating
-the victim mentality and why you need to reconsider the stories you tell yourself
-how to stop coming to conclusions & why we do it
-self worth talks, pulling your energy back onto yourself & trusting the universe
AND MORE 🦋

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Time stamps (if you're listening on audio, these times might adjust depending on the ad placements which I cannot do much about but they'll still help!)
00:00 into: book updates, black friday favourites from last week
03:13 limerence, anxious attachment, finding control
12:16 how to stop obsessing & ending the chase
25:48 the victim mentality & the stories you tell yourself
30:58 how to stop coming to conclusions
42:05 quality over quantity

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