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Dec 2021
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#91 Stop obsessing on what your ex is th...

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On todays solo episode, we're talking about putting an end on obsessing about what your ex is thinking. Today's topic is one that I get asked a lot about, and realize that it is a very real issue for a lot of you. This can be extremely painful, and we are going to talk today about why I feel like this behavior is harmful to the healing process post-break up. Any time you choose to focus your energy on what someone else is thinking or doing, it takes away your power and can negatively impact your healing. Throughout this episode we will dive into the steps on how we can stop obsessing on what your ex is thinking and continue to heal and generate positive energy.

 

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